Am I in the wrong for getting upset with my neighbor who was...

So, let’s see if I understand your position.

Yeah, you’re absolutely in the wrong. If you don’t want to listen to your neighbor working on his yard while you’re trying to sleep, you’re welcome to invest in a good pair of earbuds.

You expect your neighbor, who may or may not even be aware of your schedule, to do chores at a time that is convenient to you, based on the schedule that he might not even know, rather than at a time that is convenient to him, that is, on a Saturday morning when he’s not at work and before it’s gotten too hot. Moreover, when he failed to comply with this unreasonable expectation that you hadn’t even bothered to inform him of, you were rude to him.

I’m wondering about attachment and transference with the therapist and the idea of escape and fantasy? How much do you think your strong feelings, constant thoughts, desires to be with your therapist are a way to escape from your present life? I wonder if the transference serves another purpose than to show us our wounds and/or past experiences, but is a present coping strategy for managing what we don’t want to face (even if unconsciously) in the present—-current relationships, life circumstances, etc. Can anyone relate to this concept of escape in relation to their therapy relationship? How does this play out for you?

Am I in the wrong for getting upset with my neighbor who was weed whacking at 9 am on a Saturday? Should I apologize for being rude? I found this was obnoxious and inconsiderate, considering I work very late on weekends.

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